The first critical area to understand for creating a magical relationship is setting great standards, either with your spouse within the relationship or for your search.
Some may call these rules, but standards carry more weight, commitment, and importance.
On the negative side, for instance, if you have a low standard around fidelity or physical abuse it is much easier for you to cheat or strike your significant other. That’s pretty obvious.
What is less obvious is our standards for:
- Conflict resolution
- Seeking a common success vs. avoiding the common pain
- Quality time together
- Responsibilities for kids
Most relationships are not magical. It’s not because they can’t make it happen or don’t want to, it’s because they don’t know what “magic” means to them, what it looks like, or what the map to get there is. And for the most part, relationships are unconscious. Meaning, we are not taught how to do them even though we are educated to the nth degree in many areas in our lives.
Magical couples really drive standards into every area of their relationship. Focus on, practice, and commit to the highest standards of integrity, truth, honor, and commitment in every area of your relationship and watch the real magic that develops!